Making Your Own Path

Finding Strength in Yourself and Others

I believe that having a competitive nature is one of the most important qualities necessary to succeed and reach goals. It drives you to be better, keeps you focused and working hard.

But it is SO easy to get caught up in the competition. It can become your worst enemy and prevent you from smashing your goals. In fact, sometimes it can even stop you in your tracks and freeze you from moving forward.

It’s not how good you are, how fast, how strong, how many awards you have, followers you have or which team you’re on. You must always stay true to your own self and be the player with mental toughness, confidence and sincerity.

I’ve seen great women (and men!) with tons of potential fail due to their lack of confidence. But don’t get me wrong— I’ve also seen it go the complete opposite, too. Too much confidence and you lose the sincerity and focus.

Making Your Own Path - Finding Strength in Yourself and Others


As women, we work hard and multitask to bring our best to all that we do. We feel empowered throughout the process and grow and learn. But then we run into a beautiful, strong woman doing the same thing and we suddenly lose everything we’ve worked for and become threatened and insecure and begin to compare ourselves to others.

Make Someone’s Day

What I’ve learned (this takes a while) is to recognize another strong, empowered woman and feel stoked for her instead of reacting negatively and insecurely.

I absolutely love when I take the time to approach a woman in the gym or in passing to tell her she looks amazing. Most of the time, she is in complete shock that I went out of my way to say something and it really makes her day!

And even though it may seem like you’re doing it for the other person, making a move like this empowers you and completely melts away all of your jealous insecurities. Be your own competition, remain humble and put love into all that you enjoy doing and are passionate about. We all have struggles and insecurities— but we must find a way to make it disappear time and time again.

You’re not going to have a perfect day every day, but a strong woman is able to conquer heart break, loss, pain and self-doubt. What makes us thrive against the competition is our ability to push through and stay focused.

We can’t control the score, but we can respect ourselves and be genuine.

Thriving is not about winning or beating someone else— the best and most memorable humans are the ones who made a difference and make their path their own.

Photo by Jason Ellis

Jessie Hilgenberg

Jessie is an IFBB Figure Pro, Team NLA for Her & Athlete, registered yoga instructor, health & fitness coach, bootcamp director and fitness model. Her goal is to inspire others and illustrate that a healthy lifestyle of training with intensity, staying consistent and eating clean can truly change your life!

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